You Can Only Give What You Already Have

Stacy J
Sep 2, 2021
3 min read

In all relationships we can only give what we already have. I am not talking about physical things like money, cars or houses. I am talking about a sense of self, honest consciousness of needs and respect. When you love yourself you expect to receive love. Many people try to find a replacement for what they are missing by looking for it in someone else and you will never find it. What you put out is what you receive.

Have you ever wondered why you are always attracting the same type of person? It is because what you are putting out is attracting them. You can't say you want a strong independent person if you, yourself are not strong and independent. Yes, opposites can attract, but not by completing the other person. You have to fulfill what you are missing in your life. Your partner can't be responsible for that. Love is knowing, not a status or condition. When you get with someone you can't hide feelings, change them to match theirs or question what you feel. You have to understand that truly loving yourself and giving what you already have is a part of the person you already are.

When you love someone it doesn't matter what others think or feel about that person. If you truly love them and yourself you will live life to the fullest without care or judgement. One thing people have to understand is you can choose the type of relationships you want to have with people. You can love people and not live with them or validate their opinions. When you are happy you can't give sadness. When you are productive you can't give non-production. When you are loving you can't give hate.

Life is about knowing the real true you. It takes time to know who you are without kids, siblings, spouses, jobs, titles, etc. The feeling you get when you know is amazing. Who are you? What can you give the world, friends, family, career? Some people get up everyday and do the same routine because they just do it. There is no real meaning behind it nor is there purpose. It is done because it is what they do. When you know who you are and what you have to give you move with purpose and insight. You know what you like, what your goals are and what you can offer those in your path.

When you are around people who give negativity, deceit, drama, etc you may be giving it back. Find yourself and guide yourself. There are people you will never be able to please. They will always feel the way they do and it isn't because they are negative people, but they are caught up in the issues they are dealing with and want you to entertain them. Know what you can give, and move forward. You may be able to give them hope, freedom, love, insight, honesty, or a sense of self.

No matter what you are giving out these days, remember that what you give out is what you receive. The universe listens to what you want and gives it back. If you are always calling yourself names, fat, ugly, etc. then that is what people will think of you. Determine who you are and give that out and watch how the world changes for the better. So happy to share this with you loving folks. Keep loving & living.

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