Define Your Relationships With Others

Stacy J
Oct 14, 2021
3 min read

When you sit back and think about it, what do the people that occupy your time bring to the table? Do you gain knowledge, comfort, happiness, stress, misfortune, money or power? When you really stop and break down your relationships with people, you tend to see what they bring or take from your life. Take some time to define your relationships with others and see what they bring to your life. Here are 5 ways to define your relationships with others.

1) Determine if you are happy when around this person or people. If you are always happy when you get in the presence of this person or people then they could be a good influence on you. They could make you want more, see more and just feel genuine. On the other hand if you are always irritated, or upset around this person or people you may want to reevaluate why you spend time with them.

2) Does this person or people always ask you for something? We all need help from time to time, but if you're around someone who is constantly asking you for something, you have to ask yourself am I a true friend or a stability line? It is okay to help someone, but if that is all you do then you have to ask yourself if your time and energy is worth spending on this person. If you only spend time with them when they are coming to pick up money or you're helping them move - they might not be worth your time.

3) Do you gain knowledge from them? When you're in quality relationships with people you learn from each other. If you are the only one giving knowledge how can you learn and grow? The key is to be around people that feed your spirit, mind & body. You may have a workout buddy to help with body, an intellectual friend for mind and a wholehearted saint for the spirit. The bottomline is if you are around people who are draining instead of feeding then you are probably not in the right group. Know who is providing knowledge and who is just taking knowledge.

4) Do you have genuine fun? The reason genuine is a big deal is because when you're around people you should feel comfortable and relaxed. When being around genuine people and having fun, you don't feel forced, pressured or uncomfortable about being around them or their type of fun. For example, if you're not a drinker hanging around people who's claim to fame is drinking people under the table, you may not have genuine fun. You may need to find people that like to do what you like to do in a past time. You should never feel guilty about not wanting or wanting to do something you define as fun with those around you.

5) How to you feel overall around these people? When you are in a room full of people you can feel intimidated by all the personalities and emotions. If you can be around this person or people and feel like yourself then you are probably in the right group. If you feel like an outsider and no one understands your vision, plans or pathway, then you may want to embark on finding a new group of people to be around. It is hard enough to talk yourself into your goals, but if the people around you don't understand them, they can never give you guidance or feedback to help you. If you feel trapped in a room with them and you're just around because you feel like you've always been around, you will never truly feel yourself.

When you sit back and define your relationships with people you will start to understand who you need to let go and who is feeding your soul. Sometimes we feel stuck in our lives because we have hit a brick wall. The reason we feel that way is because we don't allow for new people in our lives to come because we are spending all of our extra time with the old people that aren't meant to be this far in our lives. Clean house or appreciate the great people you have in your life. Either way define your relationships with others and know for sure. So happy to share this with you loving folks. Keep loving & living.

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