Never Let Anyone Destroy Who You Are

When we get into relationships with people we tend to gravitate towards each others likes, personality traits and living situations. The one thing we should never do is loose who we are in the process. We shouldn't let anyone come into our lives and destroy who we are, our character, spirit and love for ourselves. Never let anyone destroy who you are.

Its okay to love what your partner loves in the essence you guys both just genuinely love it. The problem is so many couples are crossing into dangerous territory when they start becoming untrue to themselves. For example, you don't really like going to the movies, but you go all the time because your partner does. That isn't the big issue. The BIG issue is NOT doing what you love to do because you are always going to the movies to please your partner.

The same goes for food. Some people like to try new things and open up and can expand their pallet. That can be exciting for someone who loves to do that. The issue comes when you continue to eat and drink things you don't like to please someone else. This also goes with eating out and exploring options. As long as your both trying new things and deciding what you BOTH like that is great. The BIG issue is eating the same thing your partner likes over and over, even thought you DON'T like it, because you want to please them.

One of the biggest things about destroying who you are is not feeling your true self because you want to "contain" who you are to please your partner. For example, you don't dress the way you want because your partner doesn't like it. You have to be genuinely you. You have to feel great about yourself, before you can please someone else.

Couples are supposed to compliment each other. Not change one another or make one person feel bad about who they are because the other person doesn't like it or isn't comfortable with it. Relationships can be complicated, but not to the point where YOU feel like you don't recognize the person looking at you in the mirror.

You are your own person. You control what you do, how you feel, where you go in life and who will go with you. The choice is yours to make. When you choose a partner that compliments you, then that is great. If you haven't then you have to ask yourself am I destroying who I am. Am I really living my best life? Am I holding myself or partner back from a true blessing?

It's funny because I use to think that destroying someone was making them believe or do something they knew would hurt them or someone else, but in this case many people don't even realize they are destroying themselves because it is step by step and a slow process. You begin with doing things you don't like to get the other persons attention and possibly date them. The problem with that is once you start that process you keep doing it until you don't even know why you still do it. You don't know why you don't hang out with friends, family, or anything you like doing.

Life is about choices that you make everyday. Doing something you don't like or being around people you don't like every blue moon is NO big deal. However, if you're doing things you don't like to do ALL THE TIME to please someone else, you may be depriving yourself of a true opportunity to find what you need and for them to do the same. You may not even realize you're doing it until one day you wake up lost and wondering why your life isn't going the way you always wanted it to go.

The best thing to do is evaluate your relationship and determine if you are genuinely being you. It is never too late to start doing the things you want to do again. You don't necessarily have to break up or anything. You just have to be who you are and see where things go. I hope this helps anyone out there trying to figure out why they feel lost, alone and possibly in a bad situation. Grow, live, and change the world. Keep growing and inspiring.